“I understand” – Powerful!

Hearing the words “I understand” from my child’s principal was so comforting to me. She has no clue how much power she shared in those two words.

After being nominated to serve on next year’s school board, I had to call her and graciously say, “Thank you, but not at this time.” I simply could not in good conscience accept the position.

I am suffering from a major case of too-much-to-do on top of a sever lack of I-don’t-know-what-is-coming-next, and taking on this new duty would not be fair to the school or me.

Volunteering is something I am good at and enjoy very much, but I just had to say no to someone who I really admire and don’t want to let down.

Her empathy was the cure to the ailing guilt that had been plaguing me. As a teacher, mother, and wife, she related to where I was coming from and assured me that she understood. In addition she was happy to report that they had already had enough people say yes to serving so I wasn’t desperately needed (yet).

I thanked her (probably not enough) and told her to keep me in mind for the future.

I know this seems like an insignificant daily occurrence to most, but consider just how powerful the words “I understand” can be. When someone is heartbroken or terrified, the ability to know they are not alone is so empowering. Where there is understanding, healing can begin. If we can find ways to build bridges through compassion and connections to the hurt and worry of others, we can stop the flood of unnecessary anxiety and fear.

Today let someone know you understand where they are coming from. Let them know they are not alone. Maybe let them know that your differences are not a reason to distance yourselves. Saying “I understand” might just be the key to unlocking resentment or begin healing wounds that have gone untended for too long.

Understand your potential to relate with others. Put your energy in to providing empathy for those around you and your purpose will render powerful results.

By: Melanie A. Peters