Changing Someone

Changing Someone

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
The changes rarely happen instantly
or make a huge racket.
An extra giggle in our laugh or a sweet curl at the corner of their mouth,
an higher hop in your step or a wider swing in their swag.

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
An extra plate becomes a common setting next to yours.
Everyday the shoes by the door number a pair more.
Schedules shift.
Your circle of friends decreases, blends, expands.

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
Lives start to melt into a schedule in sync.
Habits begin to form hand-in-hand with routine.
The dishes may start to make it to the sink;
the laundry may pile itself in the right places.

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
When the changes start to make themselves known,
Those that have changed are not always happy with how they have grown.
The deviation from their norms can lead to bitterness.
They did not want to change, but they wanted to be with you.

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
That someone can move us in ways we did not see before.
That someone can move us to places we never dreamed of before.
That someone can begin to change us;
the change is not always noticeable.

When we being to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
After we learn to live with one another,
sometimes that someone wants to live without the other.
This is when the changes can be fully seen:
the mountains that have been moved and the lessons that have been learned.

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
What is noticeable is the space that they took up in our heart and closet.
What is noticeable is the way they filled our day in their special way.
What is noticeable is the way we brought about the change,
even though the change was not our original goal.

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
The thing that demands our attention is what that change has done within us.
Has that change helped us grow?
Does that change make us feel positive, productive, wanted?
Is that change what we wanted? Or do we need more?

When we begin to change someone,
the change is not always noticeable.
We have to recognize the differences before they divide.
Notice has to be taken of the twists and turns in our attitudes.
The unnoticed can leave the biggest scar on our hearts.
When we begin to change someone,
we can never undo the change in ourselves.

By: Melanie A. Peters

P.S. Change can be a very good thing, but be careful trying to change someone else. You are usually the one who ends up different.

P.P.S. This was written for a friend who loves someone they wish they could change. The changes that never come with love can be heartbreaking.

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